THE TRUTH ABOUT SEX AND DATING
In case you haven’t noticed yet, you’ve logged onto an abstinence website, but before you hit the “back” button, take just a minute with me to discuss the notion that abstinence is just for nerds, nuns, and geeks who can’t score a date (something I wholeheartedly believed as a teenager, by the way). Don’t skip around; just read the text in the order it appears . . .
Where do babies come from? Unless a person pays lots of money and has some fancy fertilization procedures done, babies are the result of a man and a woman having sex. For all those who cling to the view that casual sex is not only acceptable, but commendable, this presents a problem. Oh sure, there are ways to prevent conception (at least one hopes contraception methods hold up), but that doesn’t change the fact that God created our bodies so that life comes from sex. Is there anything casual about human life, anything to be taken lightly? Perhaps there’s more to sex than Hollywood flicks and GoDaddy commercials portray.
You don’t believe in God? Why not? The whole “life originated from slime on the back of a crystal that was the result of a random cosmic explosion” hypothesis is about as intelligent as saying my car is the result of an explosion in a shoe factory. All of creation points to a Creator, like it or not, and our bodies—the symmetry, functionality, complexity, and practicality—all indicate we are the skillful handiwork of Someone who has the power and desire to create humans. (It’s a defining moment when we realize, one, there is a God, and two, we’re not Him.)
What does God have to do with sex and dating? Just like God has a purpose for giving humanity eyes that see, ears that hear, hands that reach, mouths that talk, and feet that walk (wow, that was Dr. Seuss like!), God has a purpose for sex and principles regarding dating. And just like God gave mankind freewill so that we can choose to shut our eyes, cover our ears, clinch our fists, silence our mouths, or walk away from the plain truth about God, the choice is ours—we can seek to learn more about His plan for sex and dating or stick with the bogus, “No thanks, I know it all; there’s nothing the Master of the Universe can teach me,” life philosophy. We each have a choice.
So where does God explain His purpose for sex and dating? When I say cottage cheese, each person conjures up his or her own thoughts, feelings, and taste-inspired reactions—some positive and some negative. When I say Bible, the same thing happens, only it’s not so much taste driven (I hope!), but rather, past experience driven. One person grew up hearing Mom and Dad talk about the ridiculous “fairy tales” in the Bible, another person saw the family Bible collect dust on the bookshelf year after year, and yet another soul witnessed Mom read her Bible daily and find great peace and joy as a result. We’ve all got different taste buds, I mean experiences, regarding the Bible, but here’s the deal . . . it really is a true, life giving book that people wrote under the inspiration of God. Furthermore, God’s plan for sex and dating is explained in the Bible.
Can you prove the Bible is inspired by God? Well, in order to stay true to the topic of this page—sex and dating—I can’t get off on that topic, though it’s of the utmost importance. What I can do is put down loadable PDF files at the bottom of this page that addresses that topic. In the meantime, let’s go over a few uber-important things:
One, God does everything with a purpose, and His purposes are always good in the long run.
Two, God has a good purpose for sex and wise principles regarding dating, all of which have tremendous benefits.
Three, the Bible reveals God’s purpose for sex and principles for dating.
How can I learn more about the Bible’s plan for sex and dating? Well, you happen to have come to the right place (though I imagine there’s more than coincidence at work here). I’ve written a book for singles that explains God’s plan for sex as presented in the Bible, and I’ve done so in a down-to-earth style, all the while taking into account that some readers are skeptical about abstinence. Just click over to the purchasing page and click on Why Wait? to order your copy.
You said this was a discussion; how can I talk back to you? I would love to hear from you. Just use the electronic entry form below. By the way, I love getting hate-mail as much as anyone, but please keep your comments civil and peaceable. Thank you!
The Lady Whose Always Talking About Sex,
Laura B. Gallier
Motivated by a passion for the preservation of family values, Laura B. Gallier has spent the last decade as a youth minister and advisor to teens and parents.
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